Fear is Okay

Third time is the charm, right? Let’s hope so, because this is my third attempt at giving you a blog post tonight.

I wrote a post about my new custom guitar picks from Amazon, and then accidentally deleted it into oblivion. Frustrated, I wrote a post about writing the previous post and accidentally deleting it. Then I accidentally closed that window and deleted that post. Doubly frustrated, I went and played guitar.

I’m trying again.

This time I’m just going to share with you a list I found on the world wide web. I present to you the top 10 fears that hold people back in life. I kinda feel like this is an obvious list and I’m not sold on the order, but it was put together by a psychotherapist, so it may be legit. And anyway, the more you know, the more you know. Am I right?

Let’s do this countdown style.

I present to you the top 10 fears that hold people back in life, according to a psychotherapist.

#10. Fear of the Loss of Freedom

#9. Fear of Inadequacy

#8. Fear of Being Judged

#7. Fear of Getting Hurt

#6. Fear of Something Bad Happening

#5. Fear of Uncertainty

#4. Fear of Rejection

#3. Fear of Failure

#2. Fear of Loneliness

And the #1 fear that holds people back in life… Fear of Change

Life is full of relationships and careers, sickness and discomfort, oh, and death. Death is a thing as well. All of which will conspire to keep you in your comfort zone, cuddled up with your security blanket, safe and sound. But that will just leave you with a small life. Remember when you were young and it was all, “go big or go home.” And now you’re settling for letting your fears dictate the life you’re living. Bah. Enough of that nonsense.

See that list up there. Everybody has those same fears. The trick is to not move to the back seat and let your fears drive the car of life. I have read that a lot of people will work so hard to prevent themselves from ever feeling anxious that they actually develop depression. The effort of making themselves stay comfortable backfire. What they end up with is boring, safe lives that are void of risk and excitement. You need a risk and excitement, and as a byproduct, anxiety in order to feel fully alive. In order to survive.

I’m not telling you to go wrestle alligators, invest in your cousin’s crazy “insects are livestock” plan, or quit your job to become a cover model. I’m just saying that it’s good to put yourself outside your comfort zone on a regular basis. Try new things. Maybe talk to someone new. Have new experiences that are not presented to you on your living room screen.

A certain amount of this fear can be healthy, but it becomes a problem when it holds you back in life. For many people, the fear of the loss of freedom becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Amy Morin

Fear is a natural part of life. Embrace the fear.

I found the list on Inc., you can read it here if you’re so inclined.

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