It's Your Fault, But I'm Here To Help

This list is based on ‘71 Things You Can Do‘ an article by Scott Hughes over at Warriorism. But I’m not a warrior and I don’t have quite the edge that the original article had, so I’ve toned it down and made some organisational changes to the original. You can click the link above to see the original or you can read my variant below.
Nobody is perfect, and that’s okay. People do all sorts of things that don’t make sense, and we all recognize that. There is a lot of nonsense filling the world. Learning to accept the nonsense of other people is part of being a better person. You need to both recognize and accept that others are not perfect and neither are you. Other people do things that make no sense to you and you do things that make no sense to others, and everything and everyone is judged without context. That’s just the way things are. People whine, complain, and cry over problems that they can easily change. They get depressed over problems they cause for themselves. You do it. I do it. We’re all people.
Lazy people whine that they don’t make more money. Selfish people complain that they don’t have more friends. People sabotage their romantic relationships and then complain that they don’t have a lover. The list goes on. These are things people do.
Sure, sometimes a thing will happen that isn’t your fault; there is such a thing as bad luck. You could be sitting in your well-built home reading the newspaper and a tornado could come through and destroy your home. You had nothing to do with that happening. That’s bad luck.
However, most of the time, when we don’t like what’s happening in our life, it’s our own damn fault. It’s our fault if we’re fat, lazy, uneducated, lonely, etc.
There are things we can do to reduce the blame for our faults. Here are some lists of things we can do to be more successful. You and I must choose to do them or to not do them. If we choose not to do these things, then we have no right to complain about our problems; our problems are of our own making. And while I am sure we will all continue to complain, if we can at least recognize they are of our own making, that is a step in the right direction.
I am not doing all these things; it’s a pretty intimidating list, but I am trying to do as many of them as I reasonably can. So with that, I share this with you.

  • Stop watching television.
  • Read at least one book a month.
  • Make a daily resolution in addition to your New Year resolutions.
  • Forgive, but never forget.
  • Keep as few secrets as reasonably possible.
  • Volunteer and/or be involved in activism.
  • Vote.
  • Privately question your own values.
  • Keep your moral values and religion to yourself and use them to direct your own actions.
  • Avoid going places where you need to be waited on.
  • Wait on yourself wherever possible.
  • When your alarm goes off in the morning, don’t press snooze.
  • Always turn off lights when leaving an unoccupied room.
  • Don’t have skeletons in your closet.
  • Take classes in what interests you or your vocation.
  • Shower at least once per day.
  • Wash your hands, even if you aren’t an employee.
  • Have good posture when sitting and standing.
  • Keep your home, office, and car clean.
  • Take care of the elderly, which includes spending time with them and talking to them.


  • Work enough to support yourself, and if needed get a new job or second job to make enough to support yourself.
  • Don’t stick with a job that doesn’t pay enough to support yourself no matter how much you work.
  • Pay off your debts and don’t go in debt.
  • Make a budget and follow it.
  • Don’t finance or buy on credit unless you have to, exercise your options.
  • Get your finances under control by avoiding needless expenses, such as cable, overpriced clothes, impractical decorations, unhealthy snacks, jewelry, et cetera.


  • Stop eating fast food.
  • Stop eating pizza and fried foods.
  • Stop driving places that you could easily walk to.
  • Eat breakfast.
  • Choose your food based on healthiness not tastiness.
  • Don’t eat foods with high fructose corn syrup.
  • Don’t drink soda.
  • Don’t eat sugary foods at all.
  • Don’t drink more than one glass of juice per day.
  • Drink alcohol less or quit.
  • Do drugs less or quit.
  • Exercise at least three days per week.
  • Walk often.
  • Wake up early, and get all your work done as quickly as possible. That includes household chores, as well as your employment.
  • Use a journal to count how many calories you consume per day.
  • Use a journal to count how many calories you burn per day.
  • If you want to lose weight, burn slightly more than you consume. If you want to gain weight, consume slightly more than you burn. If you are happy with your weight, try to burn the same amount as you consume.
  • Weigh yourself daily at the same time.
  • Write your daily weight down in a journal.
  • Don’t smoke cigarettes.
  • Stretch daily.
  • Dance.
  • Take dancing lessons if you could use improvement.


  • Look people in the eyes when you talk to them.
  • Smile.
  • Be polite.
  • Keep your promises.
  • Keep your friends’ secrets.
  • Politely tell people that you will not betray your friends’ trust, when you are asked about their secrets and such.
  • Always write with correct spelling and grammar.
  • Never speak worse about a person behind their back than you do to their face.
  • Never judge other people harsher than you judge yourself.
  • Don’t gossip.
  • Avoid questioning other people’s values, especially in public.
  • Listen more than you talk.
  • Never tell other people that you think they or something they are doing is immoral or sinful.
  • Ask people how they are often and listen to their answer.
  • Laugh at other people’s jokes, but not your own.
  • Make your friends look good.
  • Avoid lying.
  • Treat other people as if they are better than they are. Treat them as if they are more successful, popular, et cetera.
  • Ask other people (e.g. your friends, your co-workers, your boss, etc.) what their favorite book is, and read it.
  • Ask their favorite song or band, and listen to it.
  • Ask their favorite movie, and watch it.
  • Say “I love you” often to the people you feel this way about.
  • Don’t brag about your talents. Instead, surprise people with them when they happen to be called upon.
  • Don’t pretend to be better than you are. Don’t pretend to be more successful, popular, et cetera.
  • Don’t be camera shy.